Birth Fathers Matter!

Sister loving her Birth Dad

A few days ago I received a thoughtful text from Sister’s Birth Dad, “Miss you guys”.  It’s amazing how such few words can mean so much, and be so full of love.  We love him and are extremely grateful for all that he adds to our family.  He lives several hours away so we don’t often get to visit face to face, however, we love every ounce of contact we do get.  

His text got me thinking about our last visit with him and it brought back fond memories.  We were in his home town due to a family celebration and arranged to visit with him and his wonderful family at a local park.  They were all so thoughtful and planned a delicious picnic meal on short notice.  We are so grateful to be loved not only by Caleb, but also by his parents, grandparents and siblings.  They have always welcomed all of us with open arms.  We love them all dearly.

We actually got to the park (our last visit) a bit early so we let the kiddo’s play on the playground.  Caleb (Sister’s Birth Dad) arrived before the rest of his family.  I was so excited to see him, as it had been a while since our last visit.  Sister was busy playing, that is until her Birth Dad came closer.  She looked up and they made eye contact.  She didn’t look away for a long while, she just soaked him in.  At only a year old, it was amazing that he had captured her complete attention.  I wish I could have heard her thoughts at that moment, as I know they were thoughts of recognition.  She knew he belonged to her, and that he was special.  You should have seen the glow in his eyes, he recognized her admiration as well.  It is simply delicious to watch your child's birth parents heal, because of an open adoption.

The beautiful biological connection doesn’t get removed, nor should it through an adoption placement.  Open adoption allows these beautiful connections and relationships to continue to develop and grow.  Our children were not only meant to be ours through the miracle of adoption, I believe they were also meant to be theirs (Birth Families) as well, each role sacred in their own right.  If embraced and nurtured, these roles can only compliment one another.  

I cherish that memory of my daughter’s recognition of her Birth Father. 

 She needs him.  We need him.

Thank You, Caleb.  For being, an active role in not only her life, but also ours.  We are so blessed to have you as a member of our family.  We are so grateful for the influence you currently share and for the influence you will continually share in the future.  Thank you, to all of Caleb's Family Members as well, for all of the love and support you give us!   Your actions do not go unnoticed.

WE LOVE YOU.  YOU ARE IMPORTANT TO US.

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Hazel playing with her Birth Dad and Birth Grandfather.

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Sacred relationships that are nurtured through an Open Adoption (Sister and her Birth Dad.